The saga continues.
A status update from long-standing, love-lorn Broadsheet commenter and proud bear, Fluffybiscuits, who writes:
‘Never in a million years was it going to be humanly possible that a Ted X Talk would give me a new way of thinking about things.
Singledom is a road paved with excruciating loneliness, the wedding invite that screams plus one but it is also a time of the self – self development, learning to be more independent and learning that truly you do not need anyone but you to be happy.
It also is a time to challenge our notions of what relationships are meant to be and how we see them through a prism of monogamy.
About three months ago a man walked into my life who was a breath of fresh air.
Chatting on the long summer evenings and then a cold September weekend together consuming tourist sights, curling up against the cold and mutually bonding over a shared love of Benidorm.
S, as we will call the chap, is a free spirit and a free spirit in the truest sense of the word.
He will never see this article but I am going to give the basics – he was conceived by accident he said by parents who despised him and a set of siblings who loathed him as much. What emerged from the chrysalis was a warm spirited but free loving man who likes to share the love in the emotional sense of the word.
Which brings me to the open relationships bit – in conversation he has admitted that he sleeps with friends and that he intends to but I can accept it if I like.
Lessons learnt from relationships have told me to never compromise on things and this is one thing he appears to not want to compromise on and nor should he, it forms a very personal cornerstone of his existence.
It’s a struggle for me to understand but the more I think of it thanks to the Ted X Talk (above) the more I am beginning to see it as a way of embracing the intimacy afforded by others.
The Talk advocates communicating with your other half but also knowing what you want from life. How many of us can genuinely answer that we truly know what we want from this short existence upon the Earth?
I truly cannot answer the question but maybe S is on to something that I am not and no harm in exploring. Cynics in the comments will say it’s about the sex, trust me it is not….
“Dancing in the Moonlight, Everybody is feeling warm and bright….”
Previously: Filling The Void