“Any Girl You Talk To, No Matter What Size, Is Not Happy”


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Siobhan Kehoe writes:

I have made a short documentary, called Perceived Perfection, about the pressure that the media puts on girls and woman in terms of appearance and weight, and how it can impact a persons self-image and self-worth. It would be great if Broadsheet.ie would consider sharing it as I would love the message of the documentary to reach a wide audience. It shows how difficult it is for Irish women to say that they’re beautiful.

Thanks Siobhan

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59 thoughts on ““Any Girl You Talk To, No Matter What Size, Is Not Happy”

  1. andyourpointiswhatexactly

    “It shows how difficult it is for Irish women to say that they’re beautiful.”
    It’s hyperbole, isn’t it, though? I’m alright looking, and would be uncomfortable saying I’m beautiful coz it isn’t true.

    1. Spaghetti Hoop

      The ‘Appearance Police’ are so terrified that telling the truth will drive someone to bulimia or to suicide that they adopt this mantra. I call them that because how people look is a serious obsession with some.

    2. Corvo

      The message shouldn’t be everyone is beautiful, it should be that there’s more to a person than looks and that you don’t need to base your self worth on appearances.

  2. CousinJack

    People who are fat are unhealthy, people who are thin are unhealthy, some people fancy unhealthy body shapes, more power to you, but the science is pretty clear eat health exercise and stay lean.
    And as a normal, fat or skinny aren’t attractive

    If people make bad lifestyle choices they need to accept the consequences, if your fat eat less, if your skinny eat more, excercise, deal with your own problems

    1. Corvo

      “Fat” isn’t necessarily unhealthy, “skinny” isn’t necessarily unhealthy. People have different natural body types, there’s no normal body. Trying to force your body into a different shape because people tell you it should look a certain way is unhealthy.

      1. Anon

        Most People You Talk To, Are Not Happy With Their Appearance

        Who doesn’t have something about themselves they’d like to improve?

        > “Fat” isn’t necessarily unhealthy,

        but on balance it probably is unhealthy
        fat but healthy is the exception and the example given is usually big rugby players and this mostly shows that BMI height/weight ratio is an overly simplistic measurement but there are other ways to test health and fitness.

        we are a fat nation, the average Irish person is overweight

        1 in 5 Europeans obese

  3. madouveh on the dole

    Probably difficult to call themselves beautiful, given the bet down nature of their appearance.

    Yeah, blame the Daily Mail because you’re a bit of a munter, love. Why not go to the gym and stop blaming people for having a dose of the uglies.

    1. isintheair

      We’re just trained from such a young age like. And we’re like, like, like…. yeah. Teeth, white, like.

    1. postmanpat

      some men don’t give a fupp about their appearance . enough women find that attractive so its all good. Kind of not fair for women but they live longer so…put that down fatso! Id say if women stopped watching soap operas for a year they would lose about 2 stone. Other fatsos heaps drag other women down . Lose the fat friends .hang out with people thinner than you. stay the fupp away from weight watchers (and other fat losers) ! you don’t burn off “points” by talking no matter what they say. walking makes you tired, jogging gives you more energy and takes less time. Hungry? though sh!t , get used to it. you don’t think skinny “bitches” are hungry? of course they are hungry, that’s why they are skinny ! that’s the trade off. that’s life !you cant have your cake and eat it too. no matter what slim for life or WW tells you.

    2. Spaghetti Hoop

      Who is putting on this pressure and why are you not impervious to it? That IS the real question here.

    3. Medium Sized C

      Increasingly yes.

      But its nowhere near the magnitude and not really reinforced by culture at every second step.

      And as Jess said, make your own movie.
      Or harden the feck up.

      1. Anne

        To explain.. It doesn’t really matter if you’ve a pot belly and you’re balding.. as long as you’ve got the goods.. I mean have a nice personality.

    4. Nigel

      There are ridiculous male ideals of beauty, but I don’t think men are under the same societal pressures to conform to them. I think that may be changing, unfortunately, but it’s still nothing compared to the relentless pressure women come under.

  4. D

    Amazing the extreme rise in obesity despite this never ending pressure on both sexes to be thin eh?

    1. Nigel

      Not really. When you squeeze the middle, the ends bulge. The rise in obesity is not a sign that there’s no pressure to be thin, but a sign of how dysfunctional our body (and health and food) issues really are.

  5. Jay

    And by pressure in the media, let’s face it, it’s female writers in the media for the most part.

    1. Nigel

      But of course. It’s self-policing. These things are done for men, not necessarily by them. That’s how the patriarchy has always worked.

  6. isintheair

    You know, like, your teeth, like, you know, like, your hair, like, you know, like. Skin like, legs like, ass like. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But like, you know. Airhead, like.

  7. Smelly Seán

    I find this ‘everyone is beautiful’ stuff really creepy. Shouldn’t everyone move towards a point of saying that being beautiful is not important. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t beautiful, there’s much more to life. Surely if someone buys into this ‘I am beautiful’ piddle they haven’t actually dealt with the real issue, which is their need to feel beautiful and the importance of feeling that you are beautiful and therefore can be accepted.

    1. Nigel

      But beauty is important and always has been. Just not narrowly defined, rigidly enforced ideas of beauty .

  8. ben

    “It shows how difficult it is for Irish women to say that they’re beautiful.”

    Even if you’re effectively handing out a participants’ trophy by saying every woman is beautiful, the message remains that women must be beautiful, that is the only correct thing for a woman to be. I don’t think that’s all that much of an improvement.

    1. Jess


      Be a good person, if you find your gender being used against you fight it, make a happy life for yourself. Being beautiful is a nice added extra.

    2. Caroline

      Yes. And if the makers of fast-moving consumer goods could fook off out of the debate too, that would be super.

  9. Clampers Outside!

    The “do you think you’re beautiful question?” in the last few minutes is what easily be referred to as a ‘loaded’ question. The answer was always going to err on the ‘no’ side ffs.

    Do the same for men and you’ll get the same answer.

  10. Lilly

    It’s nonsense to say every woman is unhappy with her size. I’m quite happy with my body thanks very much. That’s not to say it’s perfect but i don’t dwell on the fact that I get out of bed every day for less than €10k and the world keeps turning.

    People should stop being so self-obsessed, stop swallowing media BS and realise that if you’re body is healthy, you’ve potentially got what it takes to enjoy life to the max.

  11. deliverancecountry

    With men the issue isn’t beauty but balls. Cojones. Big-swinging-dickism.
    Silverbacks get to pick-and-choose from the prettiest/ boobiest/ leggiest/ whateverest and beta males get to be bitter at what is left.
    Source: am man

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