Staying on good terms with an ex.
It can be done.
Rosemary McCabe writes:
I made a YouTube video about how to stay friends with your ex, WITH my ex and thought it may be of interest – as my ex is Broadsheet friend Liam Geraghty!
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Staying on good terms with an ex.
It can be done.
Rosemary McCabe writes:
I made a YouTube video about how to stay friends with your ex, WITH my ex and thought it may be of interest – as my ex is Broadsheet friend Liam Geraghty!
Come back to us in 6 months and tell us all how the friendship is going; and more importantly why/if you think it helps both parties to get on with the rest of their lives?
I’ve done it before and all it causes is friction with current partners, so in the interests of sanity cut them loose.
To be fair, it’s been three years since we broke up, so … I think we’re doing okay! So far!
It obviously works for you guys, good luck with it.
Do you still ride each other?
I do believe we cover that in the video, but you’ll have to sit through the whole 30 minutes to find out!
+100
30 Minutes …….
I’m … I mean … THIRTY minutes!!!
+30 mins
there’s youtube channel self-involved, and then there’s a half an hour on your relationship crap self-involved
Ha ha! I tried to get it cut down but we were JUST TOO ENTERTAINING*
*to ourselves
Im not friends with mine but I still chat to him when I see him . His best mates bird is one of my closest mates.
Was he dumped for being a hipster?
FLAPS
https://www.broadsheet.ie/2014/05/09/were-all-damn-hipsters-now/ :)
There is no ‘how to’ about this… it happens or it doesn’t. If you feel the need to look at this video to find out how, then it won’t, just face it.
I mean seriously, if you can’t be arsed making a relationship work, why go to all the effort of trying to make a friendship with that person work when your effort would be better served looking for someone new or enjoying your own time. It should happen all by itself or you’re forcing it… IMO / experience.
And what AssPants said.
Simples.
29 mins too long.
30 minutes too long
+ 1
I snorted
She’s not going to take you back just because you agreed to do this video.
Wow.
That was funny
Seconded!
+Turded
Between this and the French wedding yesterday, Broadsheet is turning into the Sindo. [Redacted] is probably buying BS shares as I type and is secretly building up his controlling stake.
Burned bridges and scorched earth. That’s how it’s done. Anything else and you’re not doing breakups properly.
Yea it’s easier to be friends with your ex if you clearly were never mad into each other or particularly attracted to each other. It’s a much different scenario when you were either both (or one of you) was madly in love with other or even more difficult when lust was a major factor and even when you hated each other you couldn’t help jumping the bones off each other.
I’d argue if you hated each other you weren’t really in a proper relationship, you just wanted the ride.
And I’d argue you need to find out about other kinds of relationships.
(Then things would escalate.)
Do you like pina coladas?
I’m sorry, I just don’t care enough about your life to watch this.
this
No doubt the twitter bio reads as … editor, director,actor, writer ,radical feminist , socially liberal ethical liberalist , animal rescuer, proud mummy/daddy
# Hashtags for the homogenised.
# where is the mystery?
#nobody really cares
oh wait * must add to list *… contrarian, secularist, atheist, hedonist
All true bar mummy – which leads nicely on to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4gVxxckOnE
Oh GAWD !! *wins BS ” Shrew…d ” award *
Literally on the edge of my seat for the video where you discuss how regularly you use the bog and why or what brand of wallpaper paste you swear by.
:-) +1
aren’t ye great
Which one came out? Haven’t watched clip.
Ha ha! I knew this haircut was ambiguous.
Keep trying. RTE will eventually bite.
lol
Worse – is this person is already occasionally on tv3 as a stylist
Not any more, Waddy – worse! I’m dedicating myself to becoming a full-time influencer now!
I’m a artist, and a activist
http://imageshack.com/a/img921/4715/FmfRg7.jpg
Been there, had the ska band
What are you calling her ‘this person’ for? She was replying to your comments above, being very polite and friendly and you never even engaged with her and now here’s you down here all snarky and poisonous. Poor manners Waddy, troll or not.
‘This person’ was used before the reply…. just sayin’, not defendin’
:(
Dont be silly Clamps. Rosemary’s friendly replies to Waddy are at the top of this thread. Look again.
I stand corrected.
I’d use a smiley face, but I’d only be accused of passive aggres…. oh look, a cat…
Oh Tish, so cynical *tsk*
You are an inspiration to us all, Rosemary! TO. US. ALL.
on why not to upload cringeworthy videos to broadsheet…
I couldnt last for the 30 minutes. was waiting for craft beer to make an appearance. Very self-important. There is a world out there beyond beards and large framed glasses.
I like my exes mad, bad, and dangerous to know.
And a bit stalky.
Show dedication.
*shows*. Gah.
Rosemary you are playing a blinder with your polite and witty replies. Some commentators are just plain rude. They think you are self important for posting a video that they can’t be bothered watching but some how they have the time to leave snide comments.
Hi AssPants!
Well, I’ve been “broadcasting” my life now for almost a decade, in one form or another, and have no regrets thus far, so I’m not hugely worried!
Believe it or not, there are things about which I “hold my water”, at least temporarily, and see how I feel about them before I decide to share (or not). In this instance, Liam makes an appearance on my social media channels a lot, and people frequently ask how we managed to stay friends, and so on, so I decided to do a video rather than replying to everyone individually. (I mean, that makes it sound like I get thousands of comments, which I don’t, but probably around 50 questions in total!)
I don’t feel everybody should know my “personal” business, really, but I guess my definitions of the same are shifting all the time – and in 2016, it feels like there’s very little (about anyone’s life, especially someone with an online profile) that is personal or private. That’s not something I necessarily think is a bad thing, OR a good thing – it’s just how it is.
So: thank you for the advice, but I think I’ll be okay :D
Hi Rosemary, always enjoyed your fashion blog in the Times – hope this still going in some other area.
Hi Neilo,
Thanks so much – I blog on my own site http://www.rosemarymaccabe.com, but only occasionally about fashion. I blame The True Cost for ruining fashion for me almost entirely, but I guess it’s more that I just got tired of writing about the same thing, and in Ireland the industry is so small that you basically just end up writing about “here’s what to buy today” which, snore!
But I hope you find some stuff on my site you might like all the same! STI tests, social media obsession, selfies… :-p
even your replies are getting so long that I have to skim them :)
Are you angling for a job making coffee for the Xpose team?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8MdbKf_h7w
Slightly obsessed with rosemary, aren’t you biscuits?
You must be new ’bout these here parts then.
I hear they have Nescafe Gold Blend if you don’t mind.
Never make a team-player with that many ‘I’s!
Get a real job and contribute to society.
Genuine question Cynic3000: what do you mean by that? Because I pay tax, for one; I also do a lot of speaking on mental health and depression; I’ve written about representation of women, sexism, gender discrimination and health. I’d consider that a lot of what I do is actually contributing to society, even if some other parts of what are do are lighter and perhaps more frivolous! We all just try our best, right?
Ah sure, that’s hardly a contribution compared to what cynic3000 does for humanity. Having time to write troll comments like that are surely a mark of someone who does great things!
He never said he does great things. He puts on his trousers like everyone else, one leg at a time. Then he looks at yours and says they’re sh*t.
Proper LOL ! :)
I didn’t need a explanation of how a begrudging misanthrope gets through the day but thanks all the same Caroline! Must’ve hit a raw note on your own outlook. Maybe try looking into that?
My comment wasn’t even remotely at your expense, but you’ve still self-immolated.
Hmm. *makes note on clipboard*
My sincerest apologies. Wait, who were you referencing with the “he never said he does great things” remark below my comment, then? Nobody else mentioned that. *Cringes for Caroline*
Stop that Tsk, you appear stressed, why not make yourself a nice cup of camomile tea.
*re-reads everything* *cringes for self*
Hey, all great comedy partnerships get off to a rocky start.
Tsk tsk
Fair play Rosemary , interesting video, keep up the good work . Like the Repeal jumper wearing
I should’ve worn it in this video, but I don’t think it had arrived – then again, maybe that’d make the video age quite badly, and I want this to be brilliant forever, like Cinema Paradiso :D
My wife and her mates get great motivation off your weight loss/staying fit clips/posts.
Keep up the good work …(again)
Fair play to you for engaging and remaining polite Rosemary.
I’m going to take this oppurtunity to ask a genuine real life self-described ‘influencer’ some questions.
Do you really actually describe yourself as an influencer? Have you any idea how this sounds to people who don’t deal with social media branding?
She’s influenced us to despair at the trajectory of humanity and of public discourse a bit more though, I mean you have to hand her that.
rotide,
In answer to your question – I do sometimes! If I still had a LinkedIn, I guess it would be there, but mostly I use the term with Joey-from-Friends air quotes, or an exaggerated cringe gesture.
The thing is, it IS a title now – it’s how I make some (definitely not all, or even the majority) of my income. I will work with brands and do posts across my social media channels for a fee, which I think is the definition of “social media / digital influencer”, but it is a weird term and feels like a brag.
Then again, in these situations, I often ask myself: what would my American self say? And I think she’d be like, “yeah, through years growing my social media following and working on my online brand, I’m at a point now where I can hold my head high and call myself an influencer! It’s not where I set out to be, or necessarily where I wanted to be at this point, but if it means that I can create content that I’m interested in and I’m proud of, across a series of platforms I really enjoy engaging on, then that’s pretty great!” She’d also have whiter teeth than me, but that’s America for you.
So, in advertising, basically?
You sell sh1t, love. You may not be going door to door like the olden days, but you’re a salesperson with an insidious 21st century twist.
I should preface this with ‘im asking out of genuine curiosity and have an ‘influencer’ answering’ so i don’t seem like a total jerk, but you are basically marketing/advertising?
The advent of digital and viral marketing has given rise to phrases like ‘digital influencer’ which seems to me is like a contrived term for a marketeer to try and raise themselves above the scruff of advertising and retain the chops to do more political stuff as you seem to.
Honestly, I’m not sure. I started out as a journalist; now, I’d consider myself primarily a blogger. The majority of my content is independent / editorial – I write what I want, how I want, without any outside influences, or money changing hands. Same goes for YouTube videos.
Other times, I will create content in collaboration with a brand – say, a YouTube video, or a blog post with a series of social media promotions. I consider it along the same lines as “advertorial” in a magazine, but now we like to call it “native”! I don’t think that doing the occasional paid promotion means that I’m suddenly NOT a journalist, and automatically a marketeer… But like I said, I’m not sure. It’s such a grey area, and we’re all still figuring it out.
Ultimately, what I try really hard to do is to create good content – whether that’s in writing, on video or on social media. I’m a communicator, first and foremost, and my ultimate aim would be to be able to make money from writing – and filming – what I want, when I want. (That’s such a special snowflake 21st century ambition, I know.) Ultimately, if you want to make money online, you’re talking about working in native – because banner advertising doesn’t work any more.
Not to labour the point, but there are certain things I try really hard not to do; as much as I can, I won’t write what I’m told or allow brands to feed me lines, or to provide photography. I try to create my own content, which is worded and crafted by me, rather than just being a mouthpiece through which brands do their marketing. I’ve built up a following that (I think) is interested in me as a “personality” (again, cringe but true), so anything I do has to bear that in mind – asking, is this something I’m interested in, as a way of finding out if my audience will be interested in it.
I don’t baulk at the accusation that I “sell sh1t”, really, because sometimes I do – but I try to make sure it’s sh1t I’d buy myself :D
Fair play for the honest answer.
As much as i cringe at the term influencer (and if I’m being honest, I still cringe at the term ‘blogger’), you at least aren’t pretending to be anything you aren’t or selling snakeoil and holy jesus, there is a lot of those types around when it comes to influencing.
Cheers Rosemary, good luck with whatever it is that you do ;)
This is a world of which I want no part.
‘Influencers’. Indeed.
Ugghhh….cringe. I hate all this stuff. Social media influencer! Yeeeesh! People are becoming living ads. The modern world is getting more obnoxious by the day.
Let me off!
Selling out used to be frowned upon, now it’s a starting point.
There have always been sponsorehip deals, and people writing copy. This is just an extension of that.
Yes it is basically selling, they used to call them snakeoil salesmen. influencer my rear end.
Haribo has a lot to answer for…..
OMG do you mean because we’re SO SWEET?! Shucks… :-p
Their delicious jellies inspired a generation to get out and digitally influence?
I haven’t seen a romantic relationship this convincing since Richard Gere and Jodie Foster in “Sommersby”.