Fluffybiscuits: The Masks I Wear

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Basic Instincts mask and fetish store, Eustace Street, Temple Bar, Dublin 8

Warning.

Details of a personal nature to follow.

Fluffybiscuits writes:

Kink and fetish can be two terms that in frequent parlance become used interchangeably. What people forget is that these are two very distinct and separate terms that have a different meaning. Kink can be described as being something sexual that is outside sexual norms but it adds to the sexual dimension. On the other hand a fetish is a crucial act or object that is essential to become aroused.

I reached out to various people to ask about their fetishes and kinks, nothing extreme (by my measure in any case, however as is becoming the norm now the Broadsheet commentariat may see fit for us all to be sliding further and further into depravity in their thinking!). Responses were mixed, still they were asked why they had these kinks and fetishes.

A straight female friend responded excitedly with the following “I like it when men smell slightly sweaty” (a kink that is more common than you may think). One firm reason was attributed to this according to her…”pheromones”. Heavily rumoured but never factually proven, Napoleon sent a letter to his wife telling her “not to bathe as I will be home in three days”. A study from the University of Louisiana looked at sweat and how respondents viewed the opposite sex. In a study titled “The Effects of Sexual Orientation and Human Sweat Exposure on Men’s Perceptions of Sexual Attractiveness“, the discussion concluded, based on empirical evidence:

‘In contrast, heterosexual men rated female photographs significantly higher than male photographs when exposed to female sweat, regardless of the phase of the menstrual cycle. Therefore, it appears that heterosexual men remain attracted to women regardless of the stage of their menstrual cycle. This is consistent with the fact that men generally engage in sexual behavior at any time of the menstrual cycle, unlike many other mammals that restrict sexual behavior to times of ovulation.’

A gay male friend, middle aged, spoke of his need to be dominated. This stemmed from years of shyness. This was also expressed by a straight female friend who spoke about being in authority in a job but enjoyed the roles being reversed. Allowing someone to be in charge and giving them the reins of power. From a personal experience, these are commensurate with a lot of people who are in positions of authority, people like doctors, solicitors et al.

My own personal proclivities run towards the idea of role play. Employer – employee, strangers in a bar and doctor – patient are all roles I have played in the recent few years. All of us consenting adults.

It’s important to weed out the people who have deep rooted issues. For many it’s an exploration of a missing side they had, maybe giving a paternal role that as adults fills a deep rooted need missing from their psyche.

For those of you who are interested in knowing more about the kink and fetish scene in Ireland, check out Nimhneach. There is a strict dress code . Nights are held once a month and tend to be at the milder end of the spectrum ).

Maybe Broadsheeters below could tell us what their fetish or kinks are, is bondage your thing? Candle wax down the back? Food?

Previously: Fluffybiscuits on Broadsheet

 

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8 thoughts on “Fluffybiscuits: The Masks I Wear

  1. Paulus

    Niamh knocked on the door here before.
    Responses did not excede four.
    Enquiries were made
    But some were afraid
    That their bottoms would end up being sore!

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