15 thoughts on “Happy Out

  1. Joe Small

    I was around there during the week. The area is packed with drug addicts. Trying to maintain any social distance around there is an absolute nightmare.

    1. Bertie Theodore Alphege Blenkinsop

      I was around there on Monday for a funeral and was surprised at how quiet it was, funnily enough.

        1. Bertie Theodore Alphege Blenkinsop

          Yep. It was bleak. My first Covid funeral. We weren’t in the 25 so, and here’s the kicker, the hearse drives past and then they lock the gates and you’re left out on the road watching the ceremony on your phone. It’s a terrible time for anyone grieving.

          1. wearnicehats

            Why did you bother then? I’m not being a troll and I’m not trying to be funny. I just don’t understand funerals. I understand that you might be terribly upset at the death but I don’t understand what you were hoping to achieve by standing outside in the street watching it on your ‘phone.

            My family has a rule where, if someone dies and you are out of the country or something then they don’t tell you until you get back. Any funeral is private – family only. Reason being, what’s the point? Guy’s dead. Not going to get any deader. The consolation hugs can wait.

            Same as this Irish obsession with flagellating yourselves a year later or two years later – guy’s still as dead as he was then. The irony is that this virus malarkey has actually turned a funeral in to what it should be – a celebration of the person’s life by those closest to them, if available. The rest of the people are just not necessary – the “sorry for your troubles” crowd who use it as an excuse to drink your pints and get a few hours off work.

            Close friends and the people who knew the deceased well know your telephone number, address, email whatever and can easily pass on their condolences. You’ll see those friends soon enough. The family know who you are – you don’t have to wave

          2. Bertie Theodore Alphege Blenkinsop

            I went to support my wife. The lady who passed away was her aunt. We went to pay our respects to her and her family and show solidarity with them in their grief.
            If that’s beyond your comprehension then I’d suggest the problem is yours and not ours.

          3. sidhe

            are you sure that you’re not trying to be a troll?

            that was a particularly unpleasant comment to read, full of your own assumptions and very little sympathy

            @bertie blenkinsop

            my condolences to your family –
            a family member of my own passed during the height of lockdown and you’re right when you say it was bleak. most of the family couldn’t be there and a text message or phone call didn’t quite cut it.

          4. Bertie Theodore Alphege Blenkinsop

            Thank you for your kind words Sidhe and my condolences to you and yours.

          5. Lilly

            @wearnicehats – ‘The rest of the people are just not necessary‘

            Simply not true, as you’ll discover when someone close to you dies. It’s a huge comfort to the bereaved that friends and extended family attend the funeral. If you feel unnecessary at a funeral, you’re equally unnecessary at a wedding.

          6. wearnicehats

            Apologies – it wasn’t you I was really getting at. It’s all the hangers on really. My point was that funerals are for immediate family, which you were so, in normal times you would of course have been there anyway. I’m sure though that it was more upsetting to be locked out. I was stopped in traffic the other day and there was a funeral going on. There must have been 40 people standing outside, all in close proximity. People were social distancing more in the queues for Pennys. There’s no way all those people were immediate family and they shouldn’t have been there. There was also way more than 25 inside the gates…..

            Anyway, apologies for any offence.

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