Brian Webster with a childhood photo
Staying in tonight?
A year on from its initial documentary, RTÉ Investigates again turns the spotlight on the historic practice of illegal adoptions in Ireland, revealing how 12 months later many adoptees are still searching for answers and struggling to discover their true identities.
Via RTE Investigates:
In January 2020, TUSLA told Brian Webster who is now living in Co Tipperary that the people who’d raised him were not his biological parents. Brian’s birth was registered as if he had been born in May 1961 in Dublin to a Catholic couple living in New York.
At almost 60 years of age Brian learned he had in fact been born to a young Irish woman three weeks earlier than the date on his birth cert. The placement was organised by the Sisters of Charity at St Patrick’s Guild in what was an illegal adoption and happened at a time when sending babies abroad for adoption had long been outlawed.
In a statement to RTÉ Investigates last year, TUSLA said the General Data Protection Regulation, GDPR prevented it from sharing what it considered to be third party information. In Brian’s case that included his birth mother’s details, leaving him in the dark about his biological family.
Following the broadcast of the documentary there was no further progress with TUSLA, but just weeks after the programme he did get some worrying news that his birth mother was in hospital.
Conscious that time for making contact was slipping away and knowing that the few documents TUSLA had shared with him had largely being redacted, Brian’s wife Eilís turned detective. Brian says:
“She actually found out who I am. She wasn’t going to let this rest, she wasn’t going to say ok I’m waiting on somebody else to find out, I’m going to help you and I’m going to try and find out. On the index card for the dioceses of where my birth mother was from, protruded from the bottom of the redacted portion looked like the back down portion of the letter G. Looking at that then we realised that there was only I think four dioceses in the country with a G in it.”
Eilís and Brian had discovered his birth mother was from the diocese of Kildare and Leighlin.
But Brian’s joy at having narrowed his search was short-lived when he got another phone call from TUSLA during lockdown. He says:
“It wasn’t good news, it was that my birth mother had died and it was said that the door to me meeting her is now shut, and I thought that’s an awful thing to say to someone.”
Eilís searched the local death notices and within minutes she’d found the woman they believed was Brian’s biological mother. Brian recalls:
“It was fabulous to know that’s what she looked like you know, I mightn’t get to talk to her but I now know what she looks like – I mean it’s like the birth of a child, it’s the first time you see them except it’s in reverse, you get to see your mother for the first time.
But the death notice also revealed something much more upsetting. He says:
“The worst part of reading RIP.ie was that she was buried at twelve o’clock that day. I was called two and half hours after she had been laid to rest to tell me that she was gone – she had died two days previously to that. So even the opportunity of even looking in on Zoom at her funeral that was taken away from me as well.”
A week later Brian and Eilís made the journey to visit his mother’s grave. He says:
“I lit a candle and put it on the grave but I was so conscious of other people in the graveyard that any time I heard voices or heard a car door close I scampered away from the grave, I just didn’t want to be seen, I felt like an intruder, like a criminal being there because nobody knows me, nobody knows anything about me.”
Sixteen months had passed since Brian was first told of his illegal adoption. Having been denied crucial personal information by TUSLA during that time, meant any opportunity to be reunited with his birth mother was lost. He says:
“I’m angry that the information that relates to me is being withheld from me, it’s my information, she was my mother and it’s not fair that somebody else can look at it and know who she was, somebody that’s not even related to her knows who she was and I don’t, that’s just cruel.”
Having spent his entire life as an only child, Brian’s searches online also revealed his birth mother had gone on to have more children and he had three half siblings.
“My Mam and Dad that raised me, they were fantastic people, I loved them, I’ll never ever forget them, but these people are different – these are blood relatives, these are my real family.”
In recent days, Brian has had contact with a half-sister for the first time, they plan to meet next week.
RTÉ Investigates: Ireland’s Illegal Adoptions – Still Searching, tonight at 9.35pm on RTÉ One.
‘God’s own country’???
Tusla eh? Sadistic little curs for sure.